“A happy family is but an earlier heaven.”
George Bernard Shaw
We integrate Family Systems Theory established by Dr. Murray Bowen and Attachment Theory created by John Bowlby. Each theory relates back to the parent-child and/or caregiver relationship. For adult and couples relationships, we apply the “Emotional Focus Therapy” created by Sue Johnson.
In relationships, few adults are secure. When talking about romantic relationships, some people fear that their partner might not love them entirely; others seem not to place great emphasis on close relationships.
Studying about attachment all these years, I understood early on that whether the person is secure or insecure in his or her adult relationships depends on his/her attachment during infancy with their mom or the first person who provided direct care for them as a child. With Sue Johnson (EFT), I learned that the most important thing in love relationships is responsiveness to others and their needs.
John Gottman’s therapy includes an assessment of the couple’s relationship and combines research-based interventions based on the “Sound Relationship House Theory”.
When we apply these theories, as experienced therapists, we are cognizant of cultural backgrounds and take great care to understand and respect those differences.